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Sugar daddies: Is it wrong for young women to date older men? Are they only doing it for the money and status? Are the men at fault?

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Young girls love older men. Is it immoral for young girls to date older men? Why do you think young woman sometimes date much older men? Is it for security and money? Nam Kiwanuka talks about relationships between young women and older men in our latest issue and we would like to hear what you think. What's your view? Join the Focus Forum. To take part in the debate simply fill in the form on the right. A selection of your comments will appear below. Sabine Uwizeye, Kigali, Rwanda: For African culture it is immoral but from my point of view it isn't totally immoral, in case that older man is still single and loves you more than someone else. Boikanyo Alefeng, Gaborone, Botswana: Young women who date older men often find themselves in a suffocating existence. They become treated like children and have absolutely no power in the relationship. It is only weak and controlling men who date women who are considerably younger than them. Ngwani Felix Bawe, Kumbo, Cameroon: Love knows no limits and neither does age affect it! It suffices only for the older man and young woman to have found love, and they shall together enjoy the relationship like any other couple. Back home in Cameroon, young girls only use the older men for financial security and as for the men, to savour good sex from their young partners! Sao Bockarie, Boston, USA: It is not about the immoral aspect, in my opinion, when it comes to a relationship between a young girl and an older man. In a typical African setting it is mostly to do with the wealth of the man. Poverty and poor education is the main cause of these sickening relationships. Sani Usman, Kaduna, Nigeria: As a Muslim there is nothing wrong with young girls getting married to older men and vice versa. Mahmud Abubakar, Jimeta, Nigeria: In my opinion it is good for a young woman to date older men. But any woman in Africa who has found herself in this stiuation is not with the man because she loves him, but just because she loves what he has. Balaam Bahumure, Kampala, Uganda: In business, where does age come into it? Love and dating is like any other business. One has the money, the other has the service. Period! Age does not matter in the transactions. Abubakar Muhammad, Bauchi, Nigeria: It is absolutely wrong for any young girl to date an old man, despite the situation she finds herself in. Let her find another option to solve the problem. Malilwe Hamulondo, Mongu, Zambia: It is not immoral for young girls to date much older men, but nowadays most young ladies are after money and not real love. A lot of old men have been left crying once their business empires collapsed and these young ladies vanished like mist into thin air. Moses Karuhanga, Entebbe, Uganda: It is not wrong at all for young women to date older men. The women want stable partners. Young men are jumpy and have more than one partner. The older men are more caring, financially stable and psychologically mature. Older men have experience in love matters and know how to handle women socially, psychologically and emotionally. Helmut Wagabi, Mombasa: The African social setting demands that there should be mutual respect between the young and old. Older members in society should consider younger members as their children and seek to bring them up by being good examples whereas the younger should look at the older as parents and respect them while keeping away from adult issues such as money and sex. A sense of responsibility should guide both young and old and this will go a long way into solving the unhealthy relationships between younger women and older men. Younger people who grow up knowing that money has to be worked for will steer clear of money thrown at them by older people with ulterior motives and are therefore not likely to be ensnared into a sugar daddy/ mummy kind of relationship. It is a deceptive relationship and whoever gets into it, whether young or old , is in the wrong. Geoffrey Bedan Arinaitwe, Kabale, Uganda: It is quite outrageous for young girls in the African tradition to even propose a love affair to someone their own age! Then, how permissible will it be for such a young girl to date an old man? But is there an alternative in the current westernized global" society? The moral breath of our African settings has completely exceeded the threshold! God should save us. Gush Minyoro, Entebbe, Uganda: First who said it is wrong for a young women to date older men? Is it your imagination or what? You said dating but not getting married, which means young ladies getting married to older men is right. Any way, it is not written anywhere that dating older men or women is wrong if you love each other. First, take note of prominent people in the world who have broken the rule if it's there and find out why they have done that. Please may they have better reasons for that because nobody has condemned them so far. Prince Pilgani Jimwang, Jos, Nigeria: Most of the time the young girls are victims of poverty and these older men take advantage of the scenario to lure innocent girls with their money. However, it is utterly immoral for young girls to blame their predicament on poverty. By wrapping this up in the sugar coating of 'sugar daddy' we are normalising what is essentially a criminal relationship. Jackie Christie, Nairobi, Kenya. Jackie Christie, Nairobi, Kenya: Whilst I think there is nothing wrong with a younger woman (and I mean woman) dating an older man, I do take exception to the nauseous term 'sugar daddy'. Men who prey on young girls essentially for sexual favours in return for gifts should be given a completely different nomenclature. Paedophile springs to mind. Lets be clear that the basis for this 'relationship' is purely monetary on the girls part, and largely sexual on the mans. By wrapping this up in the sugar coating of 'sugar daddy' we are normalising what is essentially a criminal relationship. I have been with my partner who is 17 years older than me for nearly 28 years. Of course a young woman (as I was when we met) can date and grow old with an older man, I am living proof, but lets not kid ourselves that 'sugar daddies' are anything other than a predatory menace. Chris Nnadi, Nsukka, Nigeria: The morality or otherwise of the older man dating young girls lies in the motive behind the said action. If it is for sex only, it should be seen as immoral, but if it is for marriage, then there is nothing wrong with that. My mother married my father when she was 20 and my father was 50 years old. Collins Majwa Odhiambo, Kisumu, Kenya: It's all about money and security. Some think that old men have a lot of experience in relationships and once they are in it they can't be let down whatsoever. It is hard for young ladies to trust young men since they are financially down and still have very many things to accomplish in life. Thus they resort to old men, but ironically they flirt with them secretly since they don't want to lower their dignity. Emmanuel, Ukagha, Port Harcourt, Nigeria: Morally I think it's not right for young girls to date older men, because most of the young girls dating older men know that the men are married with a family. They sometimes go into these relationships to break up the homes. There are good biological reasons for younger women to date older men and younger men to date older women. Steve, Woolwich, UK. Steve, Woolwich, UK: There are good biological reasons for younger women to date older men and younger men to date older women. Young men reach their maximum sexual ability in their early 20s, at a time when they are frustrated by their lack of finances and willing females.